Choosing to Love Myself | Lisa + Addi of Hand lettered Design
We are Lisa Funk & Addi Robison. We became friends raising our little kids in the same neighborhood here in Gilbert, AZ and found that we had so much in common. We learned how to bake bread together, would talk about home decor, craft projects and chalkboard art. On a whim, we decided to sell some hand lettered signs at a local boutique not having any idea what would come of it. Well now, (sort of by accident) we have a little hand-lettering business (Hand Lettered Design) and love the chance to share positivity as well as encourage others to be creative and develop their talents.
We are so honored to be a small piece of this powerful series on choosing to love ourselves. When we sat down to discuss the key to loving yourself and feeling at home with who you are, we both came back to the same source: our Moms. They weren't perfect, but they did many things that helped us understand our true worth and focus on what really matters. Don’t we all wonder how we can help our children understand their true divine nature and put off the lies and distractions of the world? Here we are sharing 4 Life Lessons from Our Moms, hoping that we can all reflect on the tremendous influence we can be for good in the lives of those around us.
LESSON 1 | If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all—about yourself or anyone else!
Addi: I never heard my mom talk negatively about herself or other people. I never heard my mom worry about what she looked like. I never heard her worry about being a “hot mom” or dieting or fitting in to a certain size. My mom was always active and did her best to live a healthy lifestyle, but her body and the way she looked was never a big deal. And in addition to that, I never heard my mom compare herself to anyone else or say a mean word about another person. I have a distinct memory of sitting at the kitchen counter talking with two of my friends about a girl at school. My mom came in and quickly changed the direction of the conversation asking if we’d thought of the situation in a different way. My mom has a way of turning every situation to a positive light. I’m sure she’s not perfect, but in front of her kids, she made a deliberate effort to show us that no good comes from being too harsh with yourself or with others.
Lisa: Like Addi, I also don't remember my mom talking negatively about herself or her body. She never focused on body image and what she wished she could look like. She also didn't go on and on about others' looks—whether good or bad. It just wasn't a huge topic of conversation so I didn't feel like it was a huge deal. She did, however, talk about developing good attributes and going to God to learn about who we really are. She also never spoke negatively to me or about me. I can't ever remember her trying to control what I ate or trying to push me to follow any weight loss or exercise programs. She was a great example of talking kindly to and about people and wouldn't gossip or spread even a single word that had been shared with her in confidence.
LESSON 2 | Why are you so awesome?! Because I said so. That's why!
Addi: My mom always told me how awesome I was. To this day, I am positive that my amazing basketball skills are what took my church Young Women team to the regional championship, because that’s what my mom told me. And I still remember the look of shock on my mom’s face when I didn’t make the 8th grade cheer squad. Looking back, I am not the best athlete and I’m definitely not a good cheerleader, but I thought I was because that’s what my mom told me. It was never that I was better than anyone else, just that I could do whatever I wanted to do. And if it didn’t happen like I wanted, that was okay. I had something else waiting for me. She told me I was beautiful, smart, and kind. And I believed her. It’s amazing the power we have as women and mothers to influence children with our words.
Lisa: Having my Mom know everything about me and still love me gave me a security and confidence that is priceless. My Mom also knew the power of positive thinking. When I was just tiny, my Mom would tell me the best bedtime stories (with an Irish accent!) about a little girl named Lisa and how her Mom always needed her help with something and little Lisa would always come through and save the day as her Mom's special helper. I remember just beaming when she would tell me these stories. I wanted to be everything she said I was. I believed I already WAS those things simply because she told me I was. The words we share with our children are so powerful.
LESSON 3 | Go play outside! It’s a beautiful day!
Addi: My mom was always active and did her best to live a healthy lifestyle, but her body and the way she looked was never a big deal. My mom is a natural athlete and was always participating something. I don’t remember her exercising to get rid of her muffin top or to fit in a certain size of pants. Although those may have been goals of hers, what I do remember is thinking how cool my mom was for playing with her friends in a softball league or volunteering to referee youth volleyball games. I especially felt lucky when she would include me in her activities. I have the best memories playing golf with my mom and being invited to play in one of her volleyball games. Even family bike rides and games of HORSE in the backyard taught me that being active was fun and important, but as long as I was healthy, it didn’t matter what my body looked like.
Lisa: From the time I was tiny, I remember my Mom always being active. From the time we were small, my Mom and some of her friends would meet up at the church gym to do aerobics. They would take turns teaching the group while the kids ran wild. She didn't realize at the time that by taking us along, she was showing us how important is was to her to be active and exercise her body. Never did I feel like she was doing it to look a certain way or compare to others. When I got older, my Mom started running. I remember her starting small and working her way up to running the 5 mile "loop" through our neighborhood. More than any pounds that may have been lost (which I don't remember talking about), I was so proud of her for making goals and achieving them. She was a great example of exercising because it made her feel good to stay healthy.
Lesson 4: Never forget - “He that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.” (Matthew 10:39)
Addi: My mom is the best at serving others. She is the ultimate example of Gordon B. Hinckley’s motto: “Forget yourself, and get to work!” She did things like see how far around the neighborhood sidewalks she could snow-blow before school got out. Or how many families she could deliver cookies to. Or if she could beat the next-door neighbor home so she can pull their trash can up their driveway off the street. She sits with family members at the hospital every day for weeks and helps her sisters put up their Christmas lights. As children she was always encouraging us to serve. If a friend was sick, she helped us deliver a care package. She always had us play with a neighbor she may have noticed was feeling a little left out or write a note to a grandparent telling them how much we loved them. One of the most important things I’ve learned as an adult is the lesson in sunday school we learn over and over again is true—when you serve other people, you are happier yourself.
Lisa: When I think back on my childhood, I don't remember a Mom that was self-absorbed, focused on hair, make-up and the latest trends. I remember a Mom that made cinnamon rolls whenever a new baby was born, who served tirelessly in numerous service opportunities. I remember her spending hours studying scriptures every day to prepare to teach early morning scripture study classes. I remember her always focused outward on how she could be a blessing to those around her. She gave everything she could to serve her children. There was no question that we were the most important thing to her. Now, I see her continue to serve so selflessly that I wonder if she ever has a minute to herself. But she knows that serving others is the secret to true happiness.
We recently read an article titled "Your Body is Not Your Masterpiece - Your Life Is" by Glennon Melton (such a good quick read!) that perfectly sums up the lessons that we have shared here. We've created a hand lettered printable of this quote for you to print, hang on your mirror and share with your friends, family, church class, etc. We know that the first thing our Moms would want people to know is that they weren't and aren't perfect. None of us are. But we are so grateful for the examples they gave us of using our bodies as instruments to create a beautiful life so that we can now try to be those examples to our own children.
Thank you so much Lisa and Addi from Handlettered Design for your beautiful words! So inspiring! And thank you ladies for this beautiful print (shown above) which you can download for free below! See more from Lisa and Addi on Instagram HERE or their designs on their website HERE!
Your Life is Your Masterpiece
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Your Life is Your Masterpiece
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LIsa Funk + Addi Robison