Embracing Grace in Motherhood: Ruth Simons


One of our favorite champions of motherhood is Ruth Simons of GraceLaced. Her posts have inspired us, and changed our mothering hearts in big ways. One message that she shares time and time again is that being a mother is not insignificant work. It is not lesser than any other calling, but one that has potential to be of greatest influence for God's glory. She has taught us how to embrace grace to enable us as mothers, and find Christ as we serve His children. We are so grateful she’d let us share some of our favorite snippets from her writings, and have linked each one to the full article so you can go read more!


1  |  When we are serving our family, we are serving Christ.

"In the midst of one of my complain-sessions recently, I recognized the error in my assessment of getting things done:

What am I so in a rush to get done for? What is the important stuff that I think I’m really supposed to be accomplishing that being a wife and mother is seemingly keeping me from?

By my actions and attitude, it would appear that I have been charged with greater uses of my time than caring for my family; that the mundane and repetitive tasks of motherhood and housework are merely obstacles standing in the way of worthier priorities.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Would we do dishes, fold laundry, or train up our children with a different attitude if it were Christ we were serving? Wouldn’t it seem foolish to complain to the Lord about better things we want to do with our lives if He were a guest in our home? No, instead, we would cook and clean with a sense of honor because Christ is residing there. Friends, He does reside in our homes and in our families. We serve Christ when we serve our families!

Being a wife and mother is not glamorous. It is not looked upon with honor in our culture. It is not always immediately rewarded. It is NOT EASY. Being a wife and mother is, however, a high calling. It brings honor to God, and it bears eternal value.  He’s equipped us for any and all things He calls us to. It is through Him and for Him that we do all things!”

Find the full article here.

2  |  Get rid of the checklist.

“I muttered these words under my breath all day yesterday:

"Oh, if I have to clean up one more spill!" "Why doesn't anyone ever put things back where they belong?" "Please just stop talking..." "I can't do this." "If only..." "I just want to get something done today." 

That was the mother I was yesterday. I was tired, I was anxious, I was looking to my to-do list and not to Christ's to-BE list. Have I forgotten everything I learned about my true identity in Christ? Have I so quickly forgotten that I do not need to have everything go my way to have peace today? That a clean home is not your shelter and orderly children don't earn me anything that the blood of Christ hasn't already provided for? That the thing standing in my way to happiness today is ultimately my expectations wrapped up in simple pride.

When I have a day like yesterday, it serves to remember that motherhood is a marathon, not a sprint. Dirt and dust, accidents, crying, messy diapers, and dishes will not cease at the end of the day. We so often act like we can overcome these inconveniences of daily living in one fell swoop...like it is somehow possible to so accurately manage the unpleasantries of working in the home that we might never have to tackle those things again. It's not how efficiently you get it all done today, it's how well you run the race to the finish."

Find the full article here.


3  |  With God all things are possible.

"Would it surprise you to know that I never aspired to be a mother, much less a mother of six? In fact, I didn't give much thought to the art of homemaking as a young woman, as I was more than preoccupied with my notions of ambition and education, value and worth, none of which included the regular use of a mop or the continual employment of diapers for 11 years.

The love of motherhood, of teaching my children, of purposefully crafting a memorable meal, of creatively reflecting beauty in my home, of doing the same thing day after day after day...those things do not come to me naturally. They are the result of pruning and cultivation.

It wasn't for a lack of career that I chose motherhood...Nor was it for a love of homemaking that I stayed at home full-time...I didn't grow up in a large family...I don't have terribly good organizational skills...and I'm habitually poor at sacrificing my own comforts in service to others...And yet, the Lord has faithfully woven my dearth of experience, ability, and natural desire into the story of sanctification, maturity, and calling in my life.

Remember the testimony of the Apostle Paul? It was not his credentials, ability, or even appearance, that caused him to be used of God; it was simply his utter submission to Christ. In fact, it is Paul who encourages us with this:

For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

— 2 Corinthians 12:10

God doesn't call the able, but those incapable in their own strength! THIS is the paradox of the Gospel

You see it again and again...our God delights in making the impossible possible.

So, to all the unlikely mothers, resistant homemakers, and unsure home-schoolers...you need not be discouraged. We are right where we need to be when we feel less than we want to be. Let your today-self anticipate the transforming work he will do to make the impossible possible in the woman you never knew you could become tomorrow."

Find the full article here.


4. We become stronger as we rely on the strength of the Lord.

"The great mystery of motherhood is that we are all more capable than we think ourselves to be, but more inadequate than our pride allows us to believe. We are weaker than we are willing to admit, but stronger than we realize his transforming to be.

As I heard someone say, "You mother as well as you know your Father" ...which pours out from my heart as: Becoming a better mother is to become a more dependent child.

For all that is a mystery and in contradiction from day to day, for all that you are and who you are yet to become...be lowly, be subject, be a child of the King. He is at work to make all things new."

Find the full article here.



Ruth is a Chinese-American local artist and writer who lives in Los Ranchos, NM with her husband Troy and their six sons: Caleb, Liam, Judah, Stone, Asa, and Haddon. She's written at her website, GraceLaced.com, for the last 8 years, from where she’s grown a thriving ministry and business centered around her drawings, paintings, and hand lettering. You can find her work in her shop, and follow more of her daily snippets over on Instagram .

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