How Does Heavenly Father Feel About Me? A Family Lesson for Valentine's Day

This lesson can be used in your family or individually to supplement the concepts from Come, Follow Me week February 4-10 “The Spirit of the Lord is Upon Me.” It would also be great as a stand-alone activity in preparation for Valentine’s Day.

Images by Aimee Error

Images by Aimee Error

A favorite tradition in our home around this time of year is to set up a little Valentine post office. It doesn’t take much - a single mailbox, some festive red and pink supplies—and the kids go wild. Day after day I watch them return to the desk. Their chubby fingers write, or scribble; they color, stamp, and ask me how to spell each other’s names. Then they seal and carefully deposit their little treasures into our family mailbox. It seems like such a simple thing, but even a young child knows the power of a loving, kind, generous word. We all just want to be loved.

Images by Aimee Error

Images by Aimee Error

As we have embarked on a family study of the New Testament, I have been touched to be a witness, together with my children, of the exemplary, tender relationship of the Savior with His Father, our same Heavenly Father and Creator. Christ’s love for the Father was His focus, and His vision of Himself was clear. What if we all had that same clear understanding of who we are and how our Creator feels about us? What would we be able to accomplish? Would not our hearts truly be amazed at those “things which God ha[s] prepared for them that love him?”

Sheri Dew once challenged,

“If you’ve never asked the Lord how He feels about you, that is a great question to ask. In time, He will tell you, and as He does, you’ll learn more about speaking His language.” 

More than any chocolates, flowers, or even the most sincere words from my own heart, I would wish to gift to my children that clear picture and perfect understanding of the love their Heavenly Father has for them.  To supplement these concepts from Matthew  4 and Come, Follow Me week February 4-10,  I’ve come up with a simple enrichment activity that will invite my family members “to be with God” as the Savior did in preparation for His ministry, and to strengthen their relationship with Heavenly Father. These ideas can be used to teach your family, and would be great as a personal study as well.

Images by Aimee Error

Images by Aimee Error

Family Lesson


Consider watching this short video:  He Knows Me. (Two siblings from Ghana talk about the actions they will take to strengthen their relationship with Heavenly Father.)


Think of someone you know very well. What are some things you have done to get to know that person? What are some ways we can feel closer to our Heavenly Father?

“If you want to stay close to someone who has been dear to you, but from whom you are separated, you know how to do it. You would find a way to speak to them, you would listen to them, and you would discover ways to do things for each other. The more often that happened, the longer it went on, the deeper would be the bond of affection. If much time passed without the speaking, the listening, and the doing, the bond would weaken.

God is perfect and omnipotent, and you and I are mortal. But he is our Father, he loves us, and he offers the same opportunity to draw closer to him as would a loving friend. And you will do it in much the same way: speaking, listening, and doing.” –Henry B. Eyring

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Images by Aimee Error


 Spending quiet time in prayer is a wonderful way to begin getting a sense of who we truly are in God’s eyes. You can ask Him if He’s there, if He knows you, and if He loves you. Ask Him about what He hopes for you as your parent, what talents He has given you, and what He would have you do with your gifts.

 Consider giving your family quiet time to ponder these thoughts in private, ask their questions, and write them down. Invite family members to imagine what Heavenly Father would write to them if He were sending them their very own special love note. For my children who can’t yet write on their own, I will ask them to tell me so I can write it down for them. I can’t wait.

 I’ve included a set of 14 prompts to get each of us considering the personal relationship we have to our Father and our great individual worth in His eyes. These can be printed and cut into cards. Use them one day at a time as part of your personal study and record your answers, share them in a Valentine card to a friend, or pick out the ones that seem appropriate to use in a discussion with your family.

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Images by Aimee Error

 Just as the Savior declared, “I must preach the kingdom of God . . . for therefore am I sent,” we too can develop a sense of the purpose for which we have come to this earth, and the potential we have as God’s children.

 In my own distracted and cluttered life, I am especially grateful for the quiet moments, some etched forever in my memory, in which my Heavenly Father has made clear to me His love and my purpose. When we doubt ourselves, or feel fearful or hopeless, we can rest assured that His love is always there.

 “Heavenly Father’s interest in you does not depend on how rich or beautiful or healthy or smart you are. He sees you not as the world sees you; He sees who you really are. He looks on your heart. And He loves you because you are His child. Seek Him earnestly, and you will find Him.” –Dieter F. Uchtdorf

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Aimee is Editor of our Living Your Faith column. Her best ideas for meaningful and fun activities for families usually come to her while folding laundry, packing lunches, or picking up toys. She believes love for God grows at home. Find Aimee on Instagram @aimeeerror.